Our Little Angel

Wednesday, May 25, 2011

The Funeral

When Nei.l and I got there before the viewing, we seemed to be handling everything really well. We went into the Relief Society room to dress Trist.an and Nei.l and I both had a hard time with that. It took me a while to do more than just stand there and hand the clothes to Neil. I knew when I decided to touch Trist.an that he would be cold and hard and it was difficult to break the illusion that Trist.an was still “there”. We had a little more time with him that we both sat and held Trist.an’s body. I just kept feeling his soft hair, hoping to ingrain the texture to my memory, since it was about the only part of him that seemed real anymore.
So we put him into his tiny casket and let everyone else come in for the viewing. As soon as the crowds came, my tears automatically dried up and I felt like I should be giving the “viewers” words of comfort and not the other way around, since most of them were the ones crying. There must be something wrong with me that I can hardly cry in front of anyone else. Nei.l is one of the rare few who gets to see me emotional!

Anyway, the service began and I was supposed to read the obituary- a miniscule task, considering that it consisted of 1 or 2 sentences. So I had decided to add a little to it with something I had been thinking about for a while. So it went something like this:

“Trist.an Neil Wyatt was born to Nei.l and Aman.da Wya.tt October 12th, 2009 and returned home to his Heavenly Father later that evening. He is survived by his parents, sisters, McK.enna 4 and Ad.ele 1, and many extended family members.

“There is a story that circulates support groups and blogs of families and patients with heart defects. It tells of a beautiful day in Heaven when Jesus is rounding up his tiniest angels, to go live on earth, and be born. One of the sweetest angels says to Jesus “I don’t want to leave, I like it here, and I will miss you”. He reassures the scared little angel that everything will be okay, and that he is just going for a visit. He is still not swayed on this idea. So Jesus kneels down, and says, “How about if you leave half of your heart here with me and take the other half with you, will that be okay?” The angel smiles and says, “I guess that will work”. But the little angel is still a little scared. “Will I be okay with only half of my heart?” Jesus replies, “I have other angels there that will help out, and you will be fine.” Then Jesus gives the angel more details about his plan. He says “When you are born, your mommy will be scared, so you have to be strong, and when you feel weak just remember that I have the other half of your heart. And when its time to come back to heaven, I will make your heart whole again. Always remember that you are not broken, just torn between two loves.” -Author Unknown

” I wanted to finish this story for Trist.an.

“When he returned to Heaven, amid tears of joy and hugs in reunion, Jesus asked, “How was your turn on Earth?” The little angel replied, “It was beautiful- so many arms of warmth and love to hold me, smiles through teary eyes to greet me. A king couldn’t have asked for more!” Then tears appeared in Trist.an’s eyes. “My sweet angel, what is wrong?” Jesus asked and pulled him close. ” I think when I left, I broke their hearts, ” he whispered.

“Quietly, Jesus reached in His pocket and pulled out the other half of Trist.an’s heart. Tied to it with fine silvery threads were the pieces of hearts, of all those the little angel had touched in his brief life. Even as he looked the chain grew and grew.

” My dear little one,” Jesus said, “You did not break their hearts. You brought a piece of them back with you. And one day, they, like you, will return to me for the other piece of their hearts.”
Luke 12:34 -For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.

Trist.an has become our families treasure and our hearts are truly with him.

A seminary teacher Nei.l knew from high school carpools with Ne.il to choir each week. Hal Is a wonderful friend of our family and gave a beautiful, comforting talk. I am going to try and get it from him and I want N.eil to make a post sometime soon to include his talk and chronicle his experience with Trist.an.

There were 2 beautiful musical numbers. Jesu, The Very Thought is Sweet, and My Shepherd Will Supply My Need- one with a 6 part group and the other with 8, as well as the full orchestrations. Antoinette headed up the coordination of the music and I could not have expected such a beautiful result. Amazing!

The graveside ceremony was in Heber and the drive was glorious; blue skies and sunshine with the peak of autumn’s colors through the mountains and down into Heber Valley. We could not have asked for a more beautiful day. It had to have been close to 75 degrees.

My dad dedicated the grave and then Ne.il and Michelle sang May the Good Lord Bless and Keep You.
As a bonus blessing I was able to hold out through the whole day with little physical pain, (thank you to all who offered those prayers on my behalf!) and I don’t even look as drugged as I was in most of the pictures I have seen!
Anyway, it was a very peaceful day and a great way to “end” this chapter in our lives. I have had many hard days since, but the feeling of peace and assurance from October 17th will be a sweet memory.


  1. I love the addition to the story. So beautiful! Would you mind if I took that and replaced it with Aaron's name?

  2. I would like to share your story as well on Facebook. I want to be sensitive your privacy though. I would be happy to post your blog address?

  3. I don't mind at all, Lisa. I have already lent it to other heart angels and I don't mind at all. And Beckie, you can share away. I feel like this needs to be a public blog but I had to make it unsearchable by our family names. It's all for personal problems with family (of all people), but anyone (else) is welcome to share!